{"id":776,"date":"2009-03-20T13:28:34","date_gmt":"2009-03-20T18:28:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/forthelost.wordpress.com\/?p=776"},"modified":"2023-01-27T17:15:23","modified_gmt":"2023-01-27T21:15:23","slug":"in-some-recovered-kids-cases-the-comments-do-tell-all","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.forthelost.org\/blog\/2009\/03\/20\/in-some-recovered-kids-cases-the-comments-do-tell-all\/","title":{"rendered":"In some recovered kids cases, the comments do tell all"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Recently there were two recoveries in family abduction cases not on the For the Lost site, those of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.tricities.com\/tri\/news\/local\/article\/three_children_missing_since_2007_found_in_carter_county\/21860\/#fragment-2\">Anna and Hopi Gray,<\/a> twins abducted by their mother from Arkansas, and <a href=\"http:\/\/www.delawareonline.com\/apps\/pbcs.dll\/article?AID=2009303160004\">Karen, Laura, and Leigh Matusiewicz,<\/a> abducted by their father and grandmother from Delaware. In both articles I have provided links to, there are comments on them. In both cases, a commentator insinuates that the parent must have had a good reason for running off. But in the Matusiewicz article, those people are far outnumbered by the ones who say the dad is scum and should be punished for his crime. I agree with the majority of commentators there. Their father was actually telling people that the girls&#8217; mother committed suicide, and was not working where they were found in Nicaragua. I&#8217;m grateful they were found before the girls could fully grasp the implications of a death by suicide &#8211; suicide by a parent is known to be detrimental to the child, and if years passed and their mother who &#8220;killed herself&#8221; suddenly reappeared alive the psychological effects would be devastating.<\/p>\n<p>And in the Gray article? Well, you probably have already guessed that most people say she must have run off for a good reason. The kids were found living in a van, filthy, and couldn&#8217;t tell the police when they had last eaten. While those conditions are fairly bad, I sadly accept them as one of those things that are all too common in these cases. But several of the commentators say, essentially, &#8220;I know it looks bad, but she might have had a good reason to do so&#8230;&#8221; With the circumstances they were found in, one might think that it was obvious they were not being protected from anything. And it&#8217;s still assumed. Because the abductor has two X chromosomes.<\/p>\n<p>Am I one of the few who finds this deeply disturbing?<\/p>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Recently there were two recoveries in family abduction cases not on the For the Lost site, those of Anna and Hopi Gray, twins abducted by their mother from Arkansas, and Karen, Laura, and Leigh Matusiewicz, abducted by their father and grandmother from Delaware. In both articles I have provided links to, there are comments on [&hellip;]<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9,12,15,17],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-776","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-family-abductions","category-located-safe","category-missing-people-in-the-news","category-opinion"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.forthelost.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/776","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.forthelost.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.forthelost.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.forthelost.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.forthelost.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=776"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.forthelost.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/776\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30024,"href":"https:\/\/www.forthelost.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/776\/revisions\/30024"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.forthelost.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=776"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.forthelost.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=776"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.forthelost.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=776"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}